The first time is usually a whirlwind of emotions, expectations, and anxiety dancing in perfect harmony. The first time has the talent to make your heart beat faster even at the memory of it - let alone when it's a matter of days or hours before it happens.
The most talked about first time in the annals of first times usually goes hand in hand with longing and anxiety, which alternately appear like a little angel and a little devil above your head. The truth is that this first experience will largely determine all the following ones (here's the anxiety) and will be a memory that will accompany you forever (and more anxiety). In essence, however, it is still a process that aims for physical pleasure (here's the longing) and a deeper connection with the person who made that decisive click for you (and more longing). Somewhere here we should say that if you don't do it with your heart, don't do it at all.
The question now is, are you 100% ready for this moment? Just because you've imagined it a thousand times and discussed it with your friends even more doesn't mean anything. The answers below are intended to reassure you and solve the mystery surrounding the most crucial questions about the first time:
What will change in my body?
There won't be any visible difference. If this is one of your main concerns, it's officially time to relax. Most women are born with a hymen, a membrane that breaks or tears during penetration but also from intense activity or exercise. This can cause anything from a little bleeding to a "period" lasting 1-3 days and happens to 43% of girls. If you're worried about the possibility of bleeding, however, you can put a dark-colored towel under you and it won't hurt.
Will it hurt?
Another anxiety that brings dark clouds to your first time is the possibility of pain. Know that if you pay attention to your body and listen to its needs, there will be no pain. Or at least, there will be the least possible. The only discomfort you may feel has to do with friction and this means that there are not the necessary vaginal fluids that will assist penetration. Is there a solution to this? Of course. The answer lies in the foreplay.
Will I have an orgasm?
It's possible that your first time will be magical, but don't be disappointed if it has its ups and downs or if you're not completely satisfied. For most girls, the first time is awkward and strange. Don't be surprised if where you were looking forward to it, you suddenly look forward to it ending. Remember that even if you don't orgasm, you can still enjoy the moment with your partner.
Can I get pregnant?
Yes, provided that you have already had your period and are in your fertile days. If getting pregnant is not in your immediate plans, there is no reason not to use a condom or any other method of contraception recommended by your gynecologist.
What do we do with stress?
It's probably not possible to completely eliminate it. It's possible to drastically reduce it, ahem, that's certainly possible. One factor that will definitely play an important role is your partner: the secret lies in how well you know them and whether you feel comfortable with them. We didn't expect the research to prove it to us, but it has indeed been found that you are more likely to enjoy sex with a partner you trust. The space also plays a very important role. As you can see, it is much preferable to choose a space that makes you feel comfortable, even if it's not the romantic cabin in the middle of nowhere in Hawaii that you (all of us) have always dreamed of.
What about the preliminaries?
Everything will start with a kiss and find its way. True. At this stage it is very important to feel comfortable with both yourself and your partner. Don't ruin this moment by thinking about what move you "should" make next, there is no need here, it is better to let things flow naturally. Don't forget that it is worth enjoying the journey without rushing to just reach the destination (where destination, see climax).
What if it doesn't work?
It just didn't work. It's definitely not the end of the world. You can try again after a while. And again. And after a while. And again. Each time it will bring you closer to pleasure because you will begin to understand what you like, what you don't, what turns your partner on, and he will in turn learn your buttons.
What risks are there?
Beyond an unwanted pregnancy, you mean? In every sexual act, not just your first time, the risks of infections are increased. This does not mean that you will abstain from sports, but that you must (in capital letters and neon lights) be careful. Condoms save lives and more specifically can prevent viruses like HIV/AIDS, which have no cure.
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